I've opened a can of worms : Mellissah Smith
It's the type of blog that people think about, and talk about. It's something that gives food for thought. As I dined last night with two of my girlfriends in Melbourne, I decided to bring up the blog. Immediately, they asked me to read it out.
As I went through point by point, they shared their own experiences. What I found fascinating is that so many of our fears are the same. "Are we good enough?", "do we have purpose?", "who will love me when I am old?". For women, it is so much about love and a fear of losing their looks. For men, its primarily about being a good provider and being admired by their peers.
What is right for one, may not be for another.
As I go along my journey of life, I am becoming more and more intune to who I am. Many say that I display a confidence, and I can look in the mirror and see that. Yes, I am confident with the person that I am, my values and the fact that I put kindness above all else. My friends say that I am "consistent" and one of their few friends that display this trait. I get that. While I grow each year and become more aware of what is happening in the world I live in, I still am essentially the same person I was when I was twenty.
I am shy, but I am working on that. I love working and have workaholic tendancies, but I make no apology for this trait. I am a good, loyal friend but am the first to discard people that don't show the same respect in return.
I never get jealous of other people, instead I celebrate their abilities to stand out from the crowd and be counted.
In men, I find an easier relationship. Less hassle and more straight down the line. It comes with growing up with four no nonsense brothers who never treated me different in the sporting field, but always like a lady off.
I never reward bad behaviour. My parents never did either.
At work I have learned that quite often the upbringing you have determines what type of employee you are. Those who had little at home, or not the best environment to grow up in, often work harder, but should something not go their way, their fight for survival kicks in. Others that grow up in a stable, loving home environment tend to do their job, but don't do a whole of a lot more. They usually have less hunger, but far more stability. They stay longer in their jobs and their only requirement is good manners, a secure job and direction.
Of course, this is stereotyping, but I am at the moment trying to do a blueprint for what type of employees best suits each stage in the business cycle and each particular role.
When you have a startup, you need more than just someone doing their job. You need self-starters who are highly ambitious and thrive on achieving each successful milestone.
What talking does, and sharing on blog achieves, is discussion. An ability for people to freely discuss their thoughts and opinions. What may be your opinion today, may not be tomorrow. When writing a blog like this, I can see how it opens up a can of worms and gets people talking, sharing and engaging in discussion. Not a bad outcome!