Why we make so many mistakes

Then of course there are the mistakes we make personally; dating the wrong man, or worse, marrying the wrong man. That works for men marrying wrong women by the way too.

I am the QUEEN of mistakes. I make them all the time. Mostly I own the mistake but occasionally I just hope it gets swept up under the rug and no-one ever notices.

They say that we learn the most from our mistakes but really that depends on how big the mistake is and what type of mistake we have made.

I want to say that over time I improve and in many areas I certainly do. You put processes and systems in place and it helps eliminate the number of mistakes you make.

But mistakes aren't all about logic or remembering something. They can be emotional one's too.

If you are an emotional decision maker, it can be a positive as you may make better decisions when you manage it as part of a holistic process. I have recently looked at emotional decision making with a whole new perspective. Instead of having a rational versus emotional perspective, I am taking a more complete view.

If someone irritates me, then I just stand back and think about it. That's much easier to do if you live on Xanax but if you are living in the real world, irritation is high on the list of things that cause us to be emotional without thinking things through.

When you have too much information flying inside your head, that too impacts your ability to make decisions. You mind becomes cluttered and you start doing things that you are sure to regret at some stage. Last year, I was overloaded, exhausted, overworked and there were too many moving parts - so one bad decision after another flowed freely downhill causing me to stop, take check, and recommence my journey in a way that was more structured.

For me, this works, but many of us beat ourselves up all the time because we don't seem to nail it every single time. We all make mistakes and sometimes it's just best to realise it for what it is. We are all human. We will stuff up from time to time and that's ok. As long as we don't continue to make the same mistakes over and over again - that's all anyone can ask.

Emotions play a big part in making mistakes and as I eluded to before, unless you are under some sort of substance, it is harder to control. Only people with the most steely of personality types tend to be able to keep this in control.

The best we all can do is to learn from it and move on. Be happy, and content that we are human and fallible, but hopefully kind and considerate.