How to know what your next year is really going to be like - Personal Growth
"On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become." Anonymous.
Being a person with purpose, love in your heart, kindness and on the road to a place where you want to be or experience - is no easy feat. There is often things that are completely and utterly out of our control, that affect us "having love in our hearts" or being 100% "kind" but through purpose and a deliberate attempt at being a better person, we are much closer to this feat than if we were to just continue on without giving it much thought.
As we close on 2016, a year that has had many ups and downs but seems to resignate with many, given an influx of high profile celebrities dying younger than they should have, we are given time to breathe and think. What do we want out of 2017, and how can we make it happen?
2017 is a choice. It is another year in our lives that we have the opportunity to see in a positive light, encouraged by our own being and deliberately transforming every negative into a positive. We each have a choice to not only accept who we are, but to invest in our own personal growth and development, taking us closer to that person that we always hoped we would be one day.
Be spiritual and breathe in the world around you
I am reasonably spiritual. I believe that things happen for a reason. I also believe in karma, and that sometimes bad things happen to good people. We each have choices in life and the obstacles we overcome help define us. Living life with a glass half empty will not help you in any way, but a glass half full or in some cases overflowing, will allow us to reach our full potential and give us the positive vibes needed to see the world in a way that resonates with happiness and success.
I sat next to a man on a plane yesterday. He didn't stop talking, which is a pet hate of mine. Planes for me are a 'hideaway' from life, and a chance to rejuvenate my overactive mind, and relax. With someone, half drunk sitting beside me, telling me all of what he sees as negative in life, made me realize just how fortunate I am. My reply to his comment on how frustrating it is when planes run late: "It doesn't matter. It is out of our control. Take the time to breathe and think about the positive things in your life. Being late is just a 'thing' and not worth getting upset about."
For a second, I couldn't believe that those words came out of my mouth. It is something I truly believe, but not something that always sits so easily with me.
Change, adapt, be conscious of life
I'm changing, growing, adapting, and conscious of life.
We have so many choices that are cast upon us either by choice or through living our lives day by day, hour by hour and minute by minute. We don't have to chose things that don't sit well with us. We don't have to sit next to a person who brings us down. We don't have to see a person having a tantrum with disrespect, given we never know what is really going on behind what we are actually seeing. We can chose to be kind and generous, or try to get away with not paying the bill.
We can expect things from people, even though there is no reason why we have this expectation at all. We can feel entitled, only to realize that we are not, and that is in fact our biggest flaw.
See a dog, and pat it
We can see a dog and pat it, or let it warm our hearts knowing that they are a man's best friend, and love unconditionally. Or we can see that same dog as an ornament or accessory.
"It's not about the cards you're dealt, but how you play the hand." Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture.
Sometimes I am dealth cards and I literally cry. Why me? Why now? We all know that challenges make us stronger. Our game-plan may shift, but as long as we have integrity, honesty and authenticy in everything we do, we will get through it.
How did I get here?
I sometimes think to myself, "how did I get here?" On one hand, I have accomplished more than I ever imagined. On another, I have accomplished little. It is a choice. Maybe if I had my time over again, I would chose things slightly differently and perhaps be more forgiving. But I learned that lesson, and now I think my choices are more measured, and my nature is to always forgive and forget. Never hold a grudge. Don't burden your future with regrets from the past. Keep moving forward, giving along the way to those who are less fortunate.
Your year ahead has so much promise. Mine does too. It is an opportunity to live every moment conscious of what I am doing and what I am achieving. I am being "successful by my own definition" and not someone else's.
I have so much love and warmth in my heart, that I want to share with the people around me. I don't need any accolades for what I do, but I do need to keep moving forward, accomplishing things that I set out to achieve and being the best version of myself - and that means continuing to work on how I think, feel and do.
2017, I'm ready. I am prepared. I have purpose. I have dreams. I have 365 days to make sure I live them in the best possible way.